Monday, May 29, 2006

Update


Mom and I had seven hours in the car to spend together yesterday, and since it was Sunday, we couldn't talk business. This is a dangerous combination.

By the time we got home, we had (mentally) landscaped the entire 3/4 acre of yard that we call our own. The shady back corner was denuded of weeds, the deck acquired a wooden loggia for better growing of wisteria vines, and the underdeck area became a patio. We also screened out the neighbors with a healthy thick hedge of arbor vita (we already have one of these on the east side of the lawn) and inserted a fish pond. Then we had a friendly argument about whether or not the fish pond should be big enough to swim in ("It's unsanitary!" "It is not." "You want to swim in a muddy hole with fish?" "That depends. How are we defining 'muddy hole?'" etc.). We came up in favor of foot-paddling, but not swimming. Daddy says he doesn't want a swimming pool, anyway.

By the time we were finished, we had assembled both my brothers' caregroups and all Mom's former students for a garden-building party in July, and shook mental hands on the bargain.

Then we got home. Since it was only 5:30 PM or so, Mom invited me to our local nursery for a little action. Johnsons smells like heaven. I'm not kidding. I could feel each separate muscle in my back loosening up. I think I grew an inch, and I'm pretty sure my lungs expanded. We selected tomato plants and lobelia (see picture above), petunias and creeping vervain, and sproutlings whose names I don't remember. I dipped my hands in fountain water and touched every kind of leaf: smooth, furry, fragrant, or just plain green.

When we got home, I sat on the deck and crumbled potting soil rich as velvet between the blooming flora in their new planters. Daddy poured dirt for us and trotted out glasses of iced Zinfandel wine. Eventually, we grilled hamburgers and ate them right there, admiring the newly-planted railing boxes.

Well, that was splendid. But when we got up this morning, Mama was sick (which hardly ever happens). Apparently, she caught a bug or something from somebody in NC. Marjorie appeared at my door at 9:30 AM to ask if I could teach Latin in Mom's place at 11:00. It was Latin I, so I said yes. What delight, to revisit such concepts as the conjugation of possum and the formation of present passive infinitives! I am not overly fond of Jennys as a Latin curriculum, but my, we had fun! I even got to tell them about Pyramus and the leaky pipe. It was blissful, especially after I decided (five minutes before class began) that there was no sense in freaking out about being the teacher instead of the student. So I didn't and they didn't and we had a glorious hour, with me throwing detailed grammar questions at anyone who wasn't paying attention, a la Dr. Noe. Quite effective, I might add.

By the time we got through that, Daddy and Grandpa had finished planting the tomatoes. Daddy and I went food shopping (after hitting up Starbucks for frappuchinos and immersing ourselves in a discussion of literature: its definition, function, and end), got home, put the food away, and went up to visit Mama. I spent a delightful half-hour chatting with them and showing them my Kamien book from Music Appreciation, which I want to use as our spine Music book for high school Tapestry. They were delighted with it, and this pleased me muchly.

Then Burgee and I sat down to make spinach-and-cheese manicotti (she had been baking cookies for the past hour, but it was time to start dinner). We toughed it out over a mess of greenish goo and floppy empty noodles, and had to use pastry stuffers in the end, and Marjorie dubbed the filling "Oobleck." But, once we had them stuffed and baked in tomato sauce, they were scrumptious!

Mummy is asleep now, and Daddy is reading aloud to Burgee on the deck (which is right under my windows). I will finish this up and then go work out, shower, read a little Vanity Fair (Thackeray) perhaps, and fall asleep. In between everything else already mentioned, I have weeded and gotten repeatedly dirty, and read part of the script for Cyrano, and part of Precious Remedies Against Satan's Devices (I'm falling in love with Puritan works all over again). I have lost seven pounds or so over the last few weeks, and am getting quite tan.

Love to all!
- Me

Sunday, May 28, 2006

The Christian Life, Emoticon Style

The Christian life can be summed up in many ways. One of my favorites makes use of emoticons:

:-/ Some disturbance, some temptation
:-( Failing to respond to temptation with humilty and faith in the moment
>:-( Sinning
;0( Misery, Confusion, and/or Condemnation

One may go through this cycle several times before ....

<:-0 Realizing that God is holy
:-? Remembering that God still cradles sinners in his justly-offended and angry hands. But why?
8-D Because He loves me? WOW!

At this point the emoticons fail for a moment or two, because none have yet been invented that can turn somersaults and dance. Eventually, however...

o:-D Desiring to be holy, as God is holy, and ready to ENJOY Him!
<:0D Let's take on the world!

Friday, May 26, 2006

From North Carolina: Observations and Peter Pan

The day began, in our booth, at 8:30 AM. It ended at 9 PM. Since both my parents are speaking here, and since the conference has 8,000 attendees, we've been pretty busy.

No, let me rephrase that...

We've been swamped.

I won't tell you much about what I do, because it's simple. I listen to people, and I talk to them. I try to serve. Of course, I also observe....

Observations of the Day

1. Mothers of small children are heroines.
2. Some dads were Lit majors in a former life (this is extremely rare, but also cool).
3. Glowing, flashing, neon purple-and-pink braces are not a good idea, no matter how great you think they are (yes, I really saw someone wearing them).
4. Many teenage boys travel in packs. I don't know why, but I wonder.
5. A loading dock can be paradise if you have it to yourself for a few minutes in the middle of a very busy day.
6. Tapestry really is amazing. This face is easily forgotten when you work with it every day, but impossible to ignore when you see person after person whose eyes light up as you explain it to them.
7. I don't know that I've ever seen an unselfconscious teenage girl, including myself (back in the day when I was a teenage girl). Why is that?
8. People everywhere love my parents. It's nice to know that people everywhere have good taste. :-)
9. Somehow, foot balm which my dad brought back for me from a monastary in Florence, Italy, is better than regular foot lotion. Especially after a day on my feet.
10. There is a tower here in Winston-Salem that reminds me irresistably of the White Tower of Gondor.

In other news: I have not been beset by any boys at this conference. May I say "Hallelujah"? Instead, much to my joy, my little friend Jonathan Bloom is working in the HSLDA booth next door. He and I are old cronies from the Ohio conference two years ago. In between being on our best behavior, we swap candy and rubber-band threats across the partition. Jonathan is about 10 years old, and believes that a rubber band is a pretty good weapon.

Jonathan is also one of the sharpest dressers I know. His suit is immaculate, and he wears beautiful ties in subdued, professional colors. No one could fault his shoe polish. Add to this a crisp tan, blond hair, excellent manners, and sea-green eyes, and you will understand why everybody loves him.

I like him because he is intelligent, alert, and has a wry sense of humor quite unusual in a boy his age. He is also quite heartless, and because of this he has become my living version of Peter Pan; I feel, more often than not, like his Tinkerbell. I wouldn't be his Wendy for anything---we are too good as playmates to spoil our games with mothering. But I supply the fairy dust and he the happy thoughts, and we fly around like anything.

Tomorrow, perhaps, we shall decide where Neverland will be.

Monday, May 22, 2006

De Carolyne


I stole the picture from Thacia's blog, but I'm not really sorry... just grateful to have it. :-)

On Saturday, Carolyn graduated. The Domina is now a B.A. At our first Liberty Ball she wore a golden princess dress, and in this picture she is wearing white. In between, I've seen her in everything from pyjamas to suit jackets. None of these, however, are THE PICTURE of her, to me.

The picture of Carolyn which I carry most often in my mind was never captured by a camera. It could not be; it is too fluid. There are four parts.
One: Carolyn in her long Hobbit skirt and a wide-sleeved blouse, pensive, quiet, with her arms wrapped around her knees, speaking softly of God.
Two: Carolyn bouncing with excitement, swinging her whole body around so that the sheet of her long blond hair will fall back. She is gesturing at all of us to move closer together, and in her hand I see a camera.
Three: Carolyn in tears, shoulders shaking, weighed down by fear or discouragement. She has had many trials in these last four years, and much to be sad about. But I have seen her grow so strong through them; I recognize depths of character, courage, faith, and understanding--pockets of wisdom and towers of strength which were not there before.
Four: Carolyn looking up into my tearful face, with an expression in her wide green eyes that says she feels all my pain, and wants to comfort me. Carolyn's arms around me, Carolyn praying for me, Carolyn reminding me of the truth I need desperately to hear: "God loves you, Trissie. God loves you."

Oh, Carolyn, God loves me indeed, for I could never have merited your friendship. I won't say it all here; you know. You know what you have endured from me, and how you have stood by me. You know what sweet grace you have been in my life. You know--and if you don't, I will tell you--how badly your voice and graceful light touch, your sensitivity and sweetness, your smile and the wicked mischief in your eyes, will be missed.

Domina, mea domina, gemuimus et exsultavimus. Tuas lacrimas vidi; meas lacrimas scis. Semper gaude, Domina. Semper ama. Et semper ad caelum spera. Te amo. - Puella

A Triple Whammie

I spent some serious time confronting sin this morning. And I'm so glad I did.

9:15 AM -- I arrive at my computer terminal, only to discover that the eight-page paper which I had slaved over (only a small exaggeration), which is worth at least three-quarters of my grade for Medieval Lit, and which I had triumphantly finished on Friday, and thought that I turned in to my professor, was.... gone. Absolutely gone. All my professor received was a four-page outline and early draft.

Don't ask me how. I know I saved it. The document is simply missing, and none of us could get it back. I sat at my computer, experiencing an emotion at once hot and icy. It was compounded of anger, shock, and wretchedness. I'm supposed to be leaving for North Carolina on Wednesday. Time to reconstitute the paper is mighty scanty. And the immediate question is "God, why?"

That's a stupid question to ask a sovereign God, as Job can tell you. I called Mom and asked for prayer. Then I IMed Dad and asked for prayer. Both were sympathetic, encouraging, and reminded me of the truth. "I'm having a Job moment, Daddy," I typed. "Guess I'd better go read Job 38-40." "Attagirl," Dad said. I was intensely aware that this was one of those proving moments, where the rubber meets the road and the heart is revealed.

"One thing that was nice about it," I said later, to Mom, "was that it was so obviously a trial. Somehow I can deal with it easier when I know that."

Ten minutes after the discovery of my missing term paper, I opened my email and found a letter informing me that a legal procedure which I had hoped to skip was going to have to happen after all. And, since I'll be traveling for the next four weeks, I won't be able to get it over with until July. Think of a dentist appointment squared.

Half an hour later, I learned that my dear friend and roommate won't be able to arrive at my home tonight in time to watch a movie with the High Queen and Lisa and I. Not a huge problem, but another disappointment in a day already filled to overflowing. Triple whammie.

I've never been so grateful for a triple whammie. God met me powerfully, and all day I have experienced that sort of grace which can only be described by the phrase "beyond understanding." I've been feeling distant from God lately, uninterested in glorifying Him and pathetically self-centered. All that was swept away in a moment; suddenly I became aware of my need, and was humbled to the dust. God's intention, no doubt. I had just this morning confessed pride in my writing, pride in my abilities, an idol of control, and a lack of awareness of the cross. I asked God for humility and awareness. I received both, through these trials, in spades. Moreover, through grace I was able to set an example of cheerfulness under adversity, and my spirits rallied quickly to meet the challenge of rewriting a paper essentially from scratch, finding a date for the legal meeting, and rearranging the movie date. I was ever so aware that this strength and courage came from outside. It seemed to me that I could see the prayers of my parents, coworkers, and roommate, all pleading for my good. And God delights to do me good.

Net result: two weeks of selfishness and distance from God, with the inevitable side effects of increased outward sin and miserable self-loathing, evaporated in two hours.

I'll take a triple whammie any day!

Friday, May 19, 2006

MI-3

I saw MI-3 tonight.

Or, to be more exact, Charity and I and Sarah Lewis and the Parents and David and Casey (Danya and Casey just started courting, in case I forgot to mention that in the last week or two) and our Hobbit and a bunch of David's guy friends (don't ask me who or how many; it was all a blur) saw MI-3.

Getting there was a mission in and of itself. We were pulling out of the driveway before we realized that we didn't have Charity, and were halfway down the road before we knew we'd forgotten the Hobbit (and she won't let us forget it any time soon!). What with backtracking, finding a place to park at Rio on a Friday night (not for the fainthearted), and connecting with everybody else once we got there, it was an interesting trip. Of course, we were wired. We sang along to Beauty and the Beast halfway to the theater. Oh, and some luny (that would be me) declared this week to be official call-all-the-girls-by-their-middle-name week. So we had Anne instead of Charity, Margaret instead of Sarah, Jayne instead of Hobbit, and Lynn instead of Casey.

Yikes!

The movie itself was a roller-coaster, of course. I especially appreciated the dialogue and characterization, which have improved (in my opinion) since MI-2. I was glad to have Margaret sitting next to me--we made Latin jokes and side comments to one another throughout the experience. Of course, a major highlight for me was getting to see the Pirates 2 trailer. I really hope that that movie will live up to the promise of the first.

Eh, I'm too tired to worry about writing well, or even coherently. Love to all who helped make a memory tonight, and special thanks to Margaret for making me laugh harder than I have in weeks. I love you, friend!

Thursday, May 18, 2006

Relatively Uncomplicated

It's amazing how relatively complex life isn't, when I'm not trying to be in two places at once. I am relaxing, body, mind, heart, and soul, into this new routine. I want to describe it for you.

I return to consciousness before my alarm goes off. That is a wonderful feeling. Usually the sun wakes me (unruly sun!) with its long bright fingers. In my room there are two windows set close together, facing east. I have taken the bedstand away from my bed and turned it into simply a low, wide divan right under the windows. Thus the whole world is just a few inches away from my dreams, and the little breezes can chase themselves around my room all night. I look up at the moon as I am falling asleep, and wake to see first the sun rising over our tall trees. There is nothing that dazzles like a golden sun between enamelled leaves.

My room connects to the bathroom by a door, and since the boys are usually up before I am, I can hear Danya burble in the shower while I am--ahem--trying to have a Quiet Time. I love his singing, and it does not interfere with my devotions if the timing is right. If the timing is wrong, well... join in the joyful noise or get earplugs!

When the boys have finished, I begin to think seriously about getting out of bed. I don't actually do it, of course, until I have wiggled all my toes. Toe-wiggling is an important part of the levee process.

After ablutions and dressing and making the bed and hair and perfume and all that, I am ready to present myself to Mama. My mother believes in turning oneself out properly: neat, polished, and suitably attractive. She is herself a model of all three. We talk about everything and nothing, the day's business or last night's amusements, or matters of the heart and soul, while I make her bed--a service which gives me much delight--and she makes her preperations for the day. Round about nine o'clock, I return to my room and gather up office paraphenalia while Mama does the same downstairs. We arrive at the warehouse about fifteen minutes later, and settle in for a day of hard but satisfying labor.

Inside the warehouse door, I can feel myself becoming a different person. Professionalism coats me like a fine veneer. I settle into Williamsburg. Check one: computer. Check two: stow away purse and keys. Check three: a square of dark Dove chocolate (breakfast). Check four: refill my large water bottle. Check five: email. Check six: headphones and music. Check seven: Which of a myriad of tasks shall I do today?

Several times a week I have some sort of a conference with Dana, our forum moderator and Book Selector Extraordinaire. Grace manages the bookstore, but Dana chooses the books. Today the conference was about medieval literature selections. I love picking up an office phone and hearing Dana's rich southern accent roll across the wire. Her chuckle is pure sunshine, and no one except my mother is more capable of combining fun with wisdom. We talked Norton and C.S. Lewis and Augustine's Confessions. Who wouldn't want to spend half an hour discussing such names?

I am the unofficial office lunch-getter. Today was rather confused: Jay, Marjorie, and I went to Giant, and Elijah ran out with a sandwich request at the last moment. By the time we were through at the food store, I had somehow acquired lunch orders for four people. We got it all back though, and it was all the right items for the right people, paid for with the right credit card here or the right cash there.

At 3 PM, Laura and I (Laura has just come back from Hillsdale, and I'm thrilled to have my friend working in the same office again this summer!) took our constitutional walk around the warehouse buildings. We've both grown up in the last year. We walked and talked, sipping bottled Starbucks and dodging the odd raindrop (funny weather lately).

By 5 PM, I was ready to go home. I took the car, stopped by CVS to drop off pictures for Marjorie, got into a traffic tangle (Maryland rush hour is no fun) and arrived somehow, fifteen minutes later than usual. Between 5 and 6:30 I can do pretty much as I like: tonight I took my recorder out to the garden and played until the daylight began to get a shadow.

Then dinner, and washing up, and then.... nothing. Most of the family was out for the evening. No homework. I was pleased to my very fingertips at this new sensation of lightness and freedom, now that there is no homework. Later perhaps I will exercise on our elliptical, which always gives me such a nice warm tired glow, and helps me to sleep. But right now it feels good to be alive, among the silvery brocade pillows and luster of mahogany in my room. The moon has not yet risen. Perhaps I will brew myself a nice little pot of peppermint tea and practice a woodland tune. Perhaps not. But whatever I do, I must take this opportunity to say what has been growing in my heart ever since I sat down and began writing....

There must be a God, and not only that, but He must be splendid. How else can I explain all this?

Wednesday, May 17, 2006

Steeping in Cyrano

The Board is still thinking about it. They'll get back to me. But in the meantime, I can daydream. Of course, this is much easier to do when I have one of these on my desktop background...




.... especially if I happen to be listening to this...


.... and especially if the response of my dear ones goes like this:

Nate: "Oh, cool! I love that play!"

Davy: "Dude, yes! I love that play!"

Mom: "Oh, Tissy, yes! I was the stage manager for that play at Dartmouth! I love it!"

What fun life can be, even as a director. :-D




Monday, May 15, 2006

Learning My Middle Name

For many years now, I have objected to my first and second names. Why? Because I felt them to be A) generic and B) untenable. "Christina" is so very much what any Christian parents would choose for their girl-child, and "Joy" is something I've never felt that I had in great quantity or quality.

"Names are like prophecies, honey. You will grow into it." Mama said.
"But that's not me!" I expostulated. "I'm not a 'little Christ' and I'm not joyful. You might as well have named me 'Churchill Melancholy!'"
Or words to that effect. I don't think I ever claimed that Churchill Melancholy would be as good a name for me as Christina Joy--however, it conveys my sentiments.

I ought to know by now that my mother's words are almost always born out by events. As I was reading Piper's When I Don't Desire God in my QT this morning, I ran across the following: "Joy in God is a gift. . . . We are too hard and rebellious in ourselves even to see Jesus as attractive, let alone leave all and come to him as our all-satisfying Joy."

Piper goes on to explain one of the great mysteries of our faith in these terms: "We must obey the command to rejoice in the Lord, and we cannot, because of our willful and culpable corruption. Therefore obedience, when it happens, is a gift."

According to Piper, I had not even the capacity to delight in God until my conversion (which, for the child of a Christian home, was at the relatively late age of 15). But ever since then, I have been a recipient of the gift of joy in God. I am, truly, Joy. My mother trusted God that I would be someday when she named me, and so I have been, since the day I was reborn. Her faith is rewarded in the present appropriateness of the names which she chose. I am growing up in the image of Christ, though the adjective "little" is a good one. And I have, in growing measure, joy. I have the capacity for joy. I am able to delight in God.

So you see, my mother was right. I am Christina Joy.

Sunday, May 14, 2006

Dialogue

These aren't particularly connected, except that I wrote all of them. I am in a mood for dialogue tonight.

"You say so often, this thing or that is most beautiful of all. You cheapen beauty, giving your best approval to everything."
"Why should not everything be equally as lovely, worthwhile in its own way?"
"Then equality is the greatest beauty, is it not? But not all things are made equal."
"Oh, come! Certainly they are!"
"Why have I speech, then, and a frog does not? Are you going to deny that it is better to have speech?"

“Grandfer,” she said. He had been studying the roof beams; he looked down, beetled brows drawn low. His eyes were dark as chestnuts, and as hard. Hers were blue.
“Well?”
Lygia sat on his couch and slipped a soft, plump hand into his veined one. She leaned her cheek against it. “Gift me wi’ a story, Grandfer?”
“No. To bed wi’ ye.” He had not heard her mother’s injunction--his mind had been with memories and phantoms. But he was old, and liked to be coaxed. “I haff na time for yeern stories.”
She opened her eyes very wide and looked at him, mute otherwise. “Whoot!” he whistled to himself. “Ye witch-child!”
“Gift me wi’ a story, Grandfer?” Lygia’s face, still a baby-face, dimpled and rounded with her smile. She was too little to hide her triumph by looking away, up and away out of the room’s single high window, which showed only a patch of the winter evening.
The question was a mere formality, but he asked it. “Which one want ye, ye pied-thistle?“ Lygia sat perfectly still, gazing upward. The evening star was just beginning to shine. Without turning her head, she pointed solemnly. “Tell me about Luceaferul.”

“I thought upset stomachs were bad for the health,” a lazy voice broke in, shattering the peace of the meadow.
Old Tambi shied away, startled. Anna sat up rather suddenly, sending her long hair flying. Between the strands across her face, she made out the general shape of a person.
“Hello, Cabbage. Why aren’t you primping before a mirror with the other girls?” The voice was indolent and vaguely amused. Anna floundered up out of the grass, and met a pair of teasing eyes. Her cousin lounged against the trunk of the willow, arms folded, and features tipped sideways. She glared at him.
“I might ask you the same, Jute Corric. Why are you spying on me instead of picking out your best tunic to impress them?” Anna waved at the grass. “Sit, won’t you? I hate to see people standing. It’s so untidy.”
The boy laughed and sat down. “Because the girls bore me, and you don’t. Why else?”
“No one would ever know, the way you flirt with them,” She muttered. “You’ve become a shameless tease, Jute.”
“Well, and why not?” He shifted lazily in the grass. Jute Corric was constantly in motion, but his movements were so slow and fluid that he gave the impression of holding still. “They like it, I like it, and when I tire of their chatter, I can come and talk to you.”
Anna’s nose wrinkled in a grimace. “I’m worried about you. What has happened to my cousin, that he spends his time ogling the girls at the well instead of helping his father? You used to love the smithy.”
“I’m tired of it.” He frowned. “The metal and the heat and the pounding hammer… even at home my head used to ring.”
“Is that an excuse, or a reason?” Anna asked.
Jute grinned, unconcerned by her grave tone. “Both, and neither.”

“Objective truth doesn’t exist, Jamie. God isn’t. Heaven isn’t. It just isn’t. You won’t accept it, and it’s going to hurt you more than you’ll ever know when that finally gets through. There’s no stopping reality, Jamie. There’s no holding it back. You’re living a dream, marching to your own drumbeat, dancing a dance; but dreamers wake up, drummers get tired, and feet aren’t made to dance forever.”
She opened her mouth, but I held up my hand.
“It’s better to hear it from me then from some mugger or murderer. You think you’re safe. You aren’t! You think you’re free, but everything about you shows how shackled you are to the idea of a person who doesn’t exist. Give it up before it’s too late! Free yourself!” She just shook her head. How could anybody be so dumb? I wanted to shake her; not physically, but to her core, the way she’d shaken me. I wanted to burrow down beneath the flawless strength which I didn’t understand and find something that made sense.

They couldn’t seem to agree about anything. Emily objected to a class of mages, to demons, angels, vampires, brothels, same-sex unions, absolute rule of the king, and even slavery on sexual grounds. Instead, she wanted a council, a bill of rights, with corresponding punishments, an absolute law against invocation of dark, light, or in any way remotely personified powers, and a list of rules binding on the king, including actions for which he could be dethroned, one of which being divorce, and another fornication! It was unbearable.
“Can’t we leave all this morality junk out of it?” Burn asked, reigning in his temper for the upteenth time.
“We could,” she retorted, “but only because there are no tangible consequences for actions performed in roleplay.”
“Exactly! People join a guild to have fun, belong to a group, to take it up a level from the chat room tavern. They won’t accept a society where they can’t use magic or seduce the ruler. It’s just not how stories are written!”
“Question. Do the stories full of intrigue and seduction make a good read? Did you even enjoy writing them?”
“Sure,” Burn replied, casually.
“I bet you never had anything to compare them to.”
He snarled at her, stung. “I read a lot more than you think, Your Uppity Weirdness.”
“They don’t portray the whole truth, not the half of it! They take all the sick things and dress them up in tinsel.”
“Shut up.” Burn snarled. “Just shut up.”

“Why’d you call?”
“Just saying hi to my Ev. of Gov. partner. What’s on your mind?”
“Paper clips, my little sister’s birthday party, the 4th of July, and mud.”
Chuckling, Burn tossed away a handful of useless pens. How did she do that? He’d taken to putting the same question to her at random intervals. Every time he asked, she had an answer that surprised and delighted him. Bernard picked the most unlikely thought.
“Why mud?”
“It’s soft, and there’s something primal about it… like wrestling.”
“You wrestle much?”
“Alternate Thursdays.” There it was again, the laughter-brimming undertone. Emily could be pure sunshine when she didn’t have her walls up.
Burn grinned. “Uh-huh. Who with?”
“God.”
She hung the word out like a signal, like an ancient Christian drawing a fish in the sand. Burn remembered reading about such symbols during the long hours spent on his mother’s sunny bedroom floor with an encyclopedia.
“I betcha God wins,” he said lightly. “What do you wrestle for?”
“Priorities. Peace of mind, mostly. Joy that doesn’t rub off. Humility. I tell him I don’t need him and he tells me I do, and then we wrestle and he wins. I’m glad.”
“How come?” Burn asked softly.
“Because if I won, I’d be in charge. That would be horrible… and impossible.” “Yeah… well…” He never knew what to say to her about religion. Burn wished she wouldn’t get off on the subject so much, but he respected it and kept his distance.

“In my life….there is someone who touuuuuuches my life….” Anne warbled from the bathroom. Emily stuck her head around the doorjamb.
“Namely, who?” She smiled at the fourteen-year-old reflection with its hands in its hair.
“Namely God.” Anne replied, grinning.
“Amen.”
Emily turned away, and Anne went on, pleased that “namely God” fit the meter of the song as a replacement for “waiting here.”

“Look at the size of those trees.” Michael said admiringly to Geordie, who happened to be standing beside him. He pointed at two old giants, one on either side of the porch.
“Big.” Geordie agreed amicably.
“There are barns further up the lane.”
“Yes. We can tell Kate there are horses too. I saw them.”
“Where?”
“Other side of the house. There’s a field.” Geordie waved an ambiguous gesture. “What do you think?”
Michael shook his head. “I haven’t seen enough yet. Look, there’s Matthias yelling for us. He must have found something.”
The boys set off for the orchard at a run.
“Did you ever see such a funny staircase?” Anne poked her head out of one bedroom and found herself staring down two steps at a sunken landing, and then up two steps to the rest of the hall. “ It’s shaped like an ‘L’.”
“Oh! What an odd bathroom!” Squealed Katherine, who was not listening.
Anne descended the two steps, ascended two more, and looked in. “The bath tub has foots.” She remarked dubiously.
“Yes, but look at this window!” Kate peered out. “I can see the orchard, and the boys!”
“I don’t think bath tubs should have foots.” Anne continued oblivious. Her eyes fell on the bathroom door. “What funny knobs this house has. They stick out.”
“It’s lovely,” sighed Kate. “It’s so old-fashioned.”
Anne nodded solemnly. “Do you think Mother likes it?”

“So…” Dad inquired, lifting his sandwich in both hands and cocking an eyebrow at us, “How was Sunday school?”
A swift glance shot around the table. None of us were eager to be forthcoming. The silence stretched for a heartbeat, then two. At last I realized with some disgust that we were behaving just like the dead class of poor Mr. Sands. Somebody had to speak.
“It was… interesting.” As happened often, Matthias stepped forward to engage the difficult question. I felt a sudden wave of gratitude towards him; although he did it no doubt out of a sense of duty, it was well done and kind, giving the rest of us time to collect our thoughts.
“How was the message, Dad?” I felt it only right to return the pleasantry. Dad chewed meditatively and swallowed.
“As a whole, not bad, but there were some parts which require…” He stared off into space, searching for a word.
“Closer scrutiny,” Mum offered.
Dad grinned at her, and pointed his fork at the older two boys. “Take notes.” He said. “There aren’t many women around like your mother, but I expect you to be worthy of a couple.”
The boys nodded solemnly. Dad leaned over to kiss Mum. We “ewwwed” loud and long, and they took no notice except to tease for our squeamishness. It was a long-established custom with the Sayekirk family. We six complained about kissing; Mum and Dad made witty rejoinders which we could not answer sufficiently, and the whole exchange degenerated into laughter. By the time they finished, Dad was ready to drift into another vein of conversation: physics. It sounded like a foreign language to me, but some of the others (notably Matthias) lapped the stuff up as Dad doodled happily all over the whiteboard which hung on a wall nearby and Mum protested that she couldn’t do math. Finally we rose to clear the dishes. No more mention was made of the church. I thought the matter was closed.

I wandered into the family room to talk to Geordie. There was no good reason for it, except that I felt at loose ends and after all, what else are siblings for?
“Geordie?”
He was curled up in his usual favorite place, a corner of the couch. I tucked myself in opposite and prodded his toes with mine. Geordie barely looked up from the thick book in his lap.
“Hmmm?” He replied dreamily.
“What do you think about what Dad said?” It was as good an opening as any. I poked again, more vigorously, and forced his feet up a little. That woke him up a little, and he shoved back.
“Which part of what Dad said?”
“The swing part.”
“Oh,” Geordie reopened his book and appeared to forget all about me. Annoyed, I prodded with feet and tongue at the same time.
“Well?”
“Black Widow Spiders are known for the red hourglasses on their undersides.” He responded vaguely. “They are extremely poisonous and a human being who has been bitten by a Black Widow can die within hours.”
“Give me that!” I snatched his book away. “I’m asking you a question!”
Geordie stiffened, offended. “It’s not kind to take my book.”
I had no decent retort, but that didn’t stop me from being defensive. “You weren’t paying attention to me.” My voice sounded sulky, even in my own ears.
He regarded me oddly, then, “I forgive you.”
“I didn’t say I was sorry.”
“No, but I forgive you anyway. The Bible says to.”
I had to melt. Geordie was my brother and my friend. “I am sorry, Geordie.”
He only smiled and turned the conversation back to my original question. “What
about the swing?”

Well, that was random. :-)

The Gold-Orange Goblet


"For I have known them all," wrote T.S. Eliot, and King Lemuel says "Many women have done excellently." There is in this, in each of these statements, a sense of having surveyed what is to be had, of choosing just one thing (like picking a single goblet from a shelf of Venetian glassware) and saying of it, "You surpass them all." It is a weighted selection, an experienced and discerning evaluation, which ascribes worth without hurry, and recognizes value without exaggerating it.

I have known many women. I have nine aunts and three grandmothers, eleven girl cousins and many girl friends. I have observed the woman at Starbucks, the woman at Giant, the woman who sits two rows behind us in church. I know college girls and high school girls, who are just beginning to realize their womanhood. I know mothers of friends, mothers of small children, and mothers of grown children. Moreover, I know many women who have done excellently. Two of my high school teachers leap instantly to mind as women and mothers of beautiful character and high accomplishment. I know pastors' wives and caregroup leaders' wives who display a gentle and quiet spirit, wisdom, discretion, kindness, compassion.

In short, I live in a room like the showroom I once saw in Venice, full of blown and colored glass. Every color in creation was represented there: vermillion, saffron, cobalt, amethyst, sapphire and vivid green. But though the row of flare-rimmed goblets which you see on that lower shelf are beautiful, my eyes immediately turn upward to the one on the top shelf, that is all gold-orange and big as a water lily in full sail. That cup is the queen; it holds more than all the others, both of pain and joy. It has a rim more stretched, thinner, wider, pressed to the limits and transparently lovely. It has a deeper color, a warmth and richness which the others lack. Its stature, too, is greater; it is tall in character and strong as the Tower of David. The others are lovely, but it surpasses them all.

The gold-orange goblet is like my mother. I always think of her as orange and green and wine-red and gold, the colors of autumn and fruitful harvests. Her eyes are green as a forest pool and gold-flecked warm as summer. She looks like a queen in red velvet. She is smaller than most women, but tall in strength and wisdom. We joke that she "towers beneath." Her capacity is enormous, to endure, to stand firm, to pour herself out in love for those who raise their fists against her (oh foolish, ungrateful fists!). Many beat the tower walls, but no one can quench the light. I should know; I beat those walls for years, and she never stopped loving me.

Walls. Light. My mother is a lighthouse, uprooted from her native New England shores but still guiding my little bark home on the stormy waves of young womanhood. Her warm rays shoot across all the vastwetness; I know that whenever I run to that tower, I will be warm and safe and well-counselled. It shows in the smallest things. If I am sad, she knows it. Her tender mother-heart aches for me. If there is hard work to be done, it is she who rolls up her sleeves first. If we are all weary, she livens the table with jokes and laughter. No beat of the family's heart goes by without her knowledge and care; no event is unprovided for, no desire unnoticed, no sin escapes her concern, and no hurt evades her awareness. She is the gold-orange light, the heartbeat itself, the tower for all of us. And I think, looking at her laughing across the table, or dressed up for church with her purse and shoes all matching, and a cap perched on her little, aristocratic, cheerful head, that there is nothing so beautiful as gold-orange, and no one in the world as lovely as my mother.

Many women have done excellently. I honor them with sincerity and sobriety. But you, my mother, surpass them all. I honor you with tears and humility, and bless the name of God, who gave me my heart's desire, the one of all that I needed most, from a shelf that I could never have reached: the gold-orange goblet.

Saturday, May 13, 2006

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

First, the good (and scary) news: the EdenTroupe board has invited me to direct next semester's play. And I think God wants me to do it. And my parents are all in favor. So I accepted.

YIKES!

Second, the bad: I wanted to do The Taming of the Shrew, but cooler and wiser heads prevailed, for good reasons, with which I agree in my saner moments. So I don't get to put on the Shrew. :-/

And now for the ugly... though, after all, what's in a nose? Yes indeed, ladies and gentlemen, I refer to my current top pick for PHC's Fall 2006 play: Cyrano de Bergerac. It's not 20th century, but it's not Shakespeare. It's not a tragedy, but it's not a comedy. Some claim that it can't be staged in Town Hall---but I've seen it staged in a theater not much bigger than ours. It has a timeless message, beautiful language, and best of all, a nose. Oh, what a nose!

I haven't suggested it to the board yet, but depending on what y'all think, I will. Anybody have thoughts about Cyrano?

Tuesday, May 09, 2006

The "To-Do List"

My dear sillies... I never said I would do everything on that list! Those are just some cures for sentimentality. Your comments much amused me, but obviously I have not been clear. In order to allay concerns, therefore, hear what I have and have not done.

-- I have not continued to read Mark Twain's stories. Instead, I started a blog with my nine-year-old student from CA, and am enjoying her delight in posting. Much more satisfying than Twain.
-- I have stopped memorizing poetry (for now). My respects to Auden, but he left a bad taste in my mouth.
-- I probably won't wear a scarf in my hair again for awhile, but that's just because it isn't a style I use much.
-- I haven't bought a set of severe hair clips yet. I'll let you know before I do, so that you can all remonstrate (if you really feel it necessary to do so).
-- I typed "Pre-Raphaelite art" into my Google toolbar, and then thought better of it. I have been thinking about the stuff.
-- The weather has been rainy. No gardening until at least this weekend.
-- My parents and Casey just got back from Westport. How can I not daydream?
-- I did prosaic things. I vaccuumed and dusted my room, and I've been thinking about menus. It hasn't particularly helped yet, but there is still nothing like hard work for melancholy, so... perhaps it will have an effect soon.
-- I have not painted my study. But it needs to happen, and it will. Later.
-- I have not studied flora. Flora is in hiding because of all the rain, and when she isn't actually beaming at me out of her wide eyes, I forget to study her. She intends for me to forget, so I won't feel guilty about it.
-- I am still going barefoot everywhere and at every opportunity. Nothing to report, except that the ferret bit my foot this morning. I have not got poison ivy.
-- I have successfully resisted the urge to dance in the rain.
-- I have not painted my nails. Charity is threatening a pedicure.
-- I have not baked bread, or cut flowers, or stencilled my walls. I have bought bread, smelled flowers, and looked at wall stencils online instead. Very unsatisfying. I think I'll go for the real thing soon.
-- I have not practiced my wood flute, seriously or otherwise.

I have seen a new movie (recommended to me by the High Queen), a four-hour cross between Pride and Prejudice and Dickens. The word "wow" leaps to mind. Sensitive, strong work. In fact, I would put Elizabeth Gaskell (the author) about five degrees below Austen (on a scale of one hundred) for skill in novel-writing.
I have written a long post, very sad, which was so intense that I decided not to put it up (or rather, I posted it at midnight last night and then took it off). You would all have been worried about me, and I didn't want that.
I have played with Sam.
I have engaged in a merry war with Elijah. It was occasioned in the first place by my stupidity: I let it be known in Elijah's hearing that it is hard for me to accept compliments. Add sixteen-year-old boy and stir. The rules are simple. He leaves a sign taped to the back of my chair whenever I'm not paying attention, which reads "Christy is amazing!!!!" I, when I notice it, trot across the warehouse and remonstrate with him. "Really, Elijah," I say. "Tut." And then I leave one on the back of his chair when he's not looking (thoughtfully provided for me by Abbi, who wrote "Elijah really rocks!" on a slip of paper and handed it to me at the crucial moment). Note to censors, critics, and concerned feminists: Elijah is about seven years younger than I, so this interoffice skirmishing should not be construed as flirtation. "Strategic warfare" would be a more fitting epithet. Ah, well. We're only young once. No, wait, that's a silly thing to say. I personally intend to be playing pranks when I'm forty! But I admire his audacity, and am only waiting for the appropriate moment to spring something really devious on him. Something involving jello, perhaps....?

Supper calls.

Monday, May 08, 2006

Too Much Introspection!

I hate it when I get too introspective and dreamy. There's something selfish about it, and besides, my writing style is a horror to me when it's running on something dangerously like sentiment. I don't say I'm there yet--the last few pieces were actually some of my strongest recent work. However, the true passionate wave has broken, and I don't want to get lost in foamy bubbles. Ergo...

Potential Cures (Note: the "I will" should not be taken as an actual statement of intention, but merely as a potential statement of intention):

I will continue to read Mark Twain's short stories. They give a good dose of down-to-earth humor, laced with gentle sarcasm.
I will stop memorizing poetry (except Scripture, of course).
I will stop wearing scarves in my hair (for at least a week).
I will buy a very severe-looking set of hair clips and use them.
I will not even think about Pre-Raphaelite art, or anything that resembles it.
I will go work in the garden until I am very dirty and sweaty indeed, so as to reminds myself of physical realities.
I will not daydream about the sea, especially not the beach in Westport.
I will do prosaic things like planning menus and dusting my rooms.
I will paint my study.
I will learn the species type and sun requirements and any other dull-but-necessary information I can dig up, for at least twelve specimins of flora.
I will not go barefoot in places where poison ivy may be (I have been rather reckless lately with my preference for bare feet).
I will resist the urge to dance in the rain.
I will paint my nails, because there is something so realistic about the smell of nail gloss.
I will not bake bread or cut flowers or stencil on my walls.
I will practice seriously on my wood flute, and stop making up nonsense tunes.

There. That ought to do it.

;-)

Sunday, May 07, 2006

Dim Time

I think I remember that their names were Paulo and Francesca. They were characters whom Dante met in Hell, in the Inferno portion of his Comedia. They, lovers, had stolen what they ought not from one another, and were doomed to whirl endlessly about in a funnel of air, because they had abused love.

Dante asks them how it happened, and one replies, "We were alone with the hours and with dim time." Someone left them alone together; someone who should have known better. It is very dangerous to leave young people alone together, with the hours, and with dim time. They do not notice how time passes, because it is so dim, and their hearts slip from their bodies, and are exchanged, and then what? Unless a marriage, nothing. Nothing but an ache, and a memory, and the passage of time. Time is no longer dim, but rather sharp and distinct, minute by minute. Slower, slowly still slower slowed: prick by painful prick.

But God is merciful. One day you are walking outside with your memories, and a playful little aura, a breeze, brushes up your nose and down your throat and through the place where your heart was, leaving a little life, a little breath of something, a fragrance perhaps. You feel it in spite of yourself; you want to be faithful to your pain, but you are not numb any more. And though you think it cruel that life goes on, it does go. Time begins to speed again--why should it not? You are still young, though older now. Yes, older. Your eyes show it, because now there is a shadow there that was not before. A new law has been written on your soul. "Tarry not with only one other, in the places where time grows dim."

You ask, "Why, God? I did not know. Why did you not tell me it was dangerous?" But that is not fair. You knew yourself that it was not wise to trifle with the hours, to spend so many of them so thoughtlessly. You knew that you would have to pay with your heart sooner or later. You knew it was your heart's craving that led you to do it. Blame whomever you will, but the fault is your own--had you been satisfied with God, you would not have done it. No one warned you? Your conscience warned. You did not listen.

But God is gracious. He will give you another heart, a better, one less likely to wander from Himself. It was a hard lesson, but you have learnt it now, and you are deeper, fuller, for it. You might have come to this richness more easily if you had obeyed from the first; however, the way that it happens is always the best way, because it is God's choice. That is God's way, to make of even coarse black cotton thread a cloth that glows rich colors, and is as fine as cambric lace.

You are the black cotton thread, your life's thread, and well you know how to tangle the skein! But once God has put you tangled into the fire, He draws you forth smooth again, wound up into a compact and shining ball, ready for weaving. Ah, and the weaving! He stretches you out along a warp and woof, stretching thinner than you believe you can bear. But then the shining threads begin to be crossed with yours, soothing and healing as they bind, gold on black. And somehow, the colors melt together. Sometimes the result is a vibrant green, sometimes blue as blue as October twilight, somethings pearly, sometimes wine red.

You will not see what sort of cloth you are become, not immediately. And it is not yours, you know. Your velvet and brocade is worthless unless it covers someone else's shaking shoulder, protects an old hand from the cold, or passes under a baby chin. You will be cut up over and over, cut in half, in pieces, to satisfy the need of so many others. But that is what you are for. You were not made to please yourself, you know. You were not made to squander time. The more you realize eternity, the more you will keep a sharp lookout on the spending of hours. It is strange that the recognition of eternity's vastness should engender such a thriftiness, but not so strange when one sees who is at the center of time, and who has given you your allotment of hours, which are really all His, after all.

Keep your eye on the sundial, which plays across its surface a reflection of the sun. The light passes--chase it! Do not be caught behind in shadows, where you may forget, and time may grow dim. Chase the sun home! Once you have found its home, you need never fear again to have misspent the hours, for there is no end of hours there, and evening shadows never come.

Saturday, May 06, 2006

Sensuality

Charity and I have been spending a lot of time together lately, as we try to become real friends (as we already are sisters). One of her favorite games is called "Secrets."

"How does it work?" I asked.
"You have to tell me something that I don't know about you, and then I do the same."
"Oh, come on! We grew up together! What don't you know about me? Charity, this is a silly game."
"Just try it. Please?"

So, I tried it. And now I am humbled. I never realized how many things... small things, but somehow important, I didn't know about my sister.

"I prefer my bouquets to be all one kind of flower, not a mixed jumble."
"I want to go to Morocco someday."

Things I never knew. And she pulls out of me things I didn't know about myself.

"I don't really like bouquets at all. I prefer to wander in a garden where you can see flowers at home."
"I like manual labor."

At the last admission, Charity gave me a funny look, and said "Yeah, I can see that."

There is just something about physical labor, physical artistry, and tactile experience in general, that appeals to me very much. It shows up in little ways all through my life and daily routine. I take all my school notes on paper, even though I have a laptop. I work at making my handwriting beautiful. I keep sealing wax in my desk, and even enjoy burning my fingers on it. Today I spent an hour lying on the grass in the sunshine, just smelling and tasting the spring. But, before that, I spent a few minutes attacking the insolent vegetation (weeds) in our front garden bed. I read Peter Pan today for the first time. I read most of it outside. Bliss.

Another instance: I bought a recorder a few weeks ago--I call it my "wood flute"--and love to go strolling, piping outside in the early evening. I love it that I can change the sound just by breathing a little differently, and I love the slight pressure of air under my tapping fingers. I can pour my soul into it, sad or sweet or mischief-making, and hear the difference in the air.

I love the taste and texture of lemon slices. I love to run my fingers over smooth wood, or the satin of a horse's nose. I love cloth--I have a passion for clean white linen and sunsoaked laundry on the line. Cooking is a great pleasure to me; gardening (you will hear much about gardening in the months ahead) is an even greater one. I lay still for three minutes this morning, in bed, just staring at a sunbeam on my windowsill and wondering about what light is. I touched it, and felt nothing. My fingers cast a shadow. I frowned. But then, after I was outside all that time this afternoon, my skin was warm and stayed warm for a long time. That makes me smile. I can cast a momentary shadow, but the mark of the sun remains on my skin for hours.

You may wonder why I use the word "sensuality," because we usually associate that word with a sexual connotation. I object strongly to this. A dictionary tells me that "sensual" simply means "of the senses." Why should I abandon it--along with other perfectly delightful words like "gay" and "queer," which had nothing originally to do with sex--to Frued? I will not do so. My mind loves the word, its gentle rises and falls, the drawn-out enjoyment of that "ua" sound; my mind touches the word, as my fingers would the surface of a finely-crafted mahogany table.

The word has a cousin which I also love, but not in the same way. I refer to "sensibility." Sensibility is a little sharper, wittier, both more aware and less delighted. Sensuality is primarily a word of enjoyment, to me. It is the word for what one experiences from the world around, not what one does towards that world.

Oh dear, I can't say what I mean at all. I can't let you see through my fingertips. I can't express, really, the intensity of my delight in touching things, smelling, hearing... really, there are no words.

But there are still sensual experiences. They tell me that God is, and that He loves me.

Da mihi, Domine, scire et intellegere et amare....

Thursday, May 04, 2006

"The world moves for love"

"The world moves for love. It kneels before it in awe." - The Village

The world does move for love--the world steps aside for love, and falls silent, and fades away, unpowerful as a baby. The "world" that I mean is the struggle of every day. I mean the longings and lonely wistful thoughts, the temptations and fears and cravings and petty selfishness, all the things that whisper, moment by moment, "There is no God. And if there is, you can't trust Him. He's a devil. He'll rip your heart out." I mean the way your hands tighten on the steering wheel right before that dangerous left turn, and the indifference to your baby sister's plea for help with the dishes. I mean the way you feel when you see someone else happy, and your life seems all messed up, confused, like a tangled skein of yarn. I mean that awful cold place in the pit of your stomach and at the base of your spine and in the core of your heart, where you don't believe that anybody, anybody knows or cares.

What I mean by "love" in this instance is that fountain in the Christian soul that won't stop chuckling and spilling over, no matter how many times you come, dead-dry and desperate, stretching out for water. It's the certainty, deeper than your stomach or spine or heart, that someone both knows and cares--knows everything, and still cares with a vast and splendid caring. It's the voice that keeps telling you, with the babble of laughing water, "There is God. And He's good. He'll rip your heart out, your stone heart, and give you a real one." I mean the way you feel ten years old again, so bright and young and carefree and songful. I mean the calm that carries you through many a difficult, hot, dusty, exasperating moment. I mean the secret knowing that whatever the desert, there's a stream running under it, smiling up to you and bursting through the dirt and old piles of camel manure and sand towards you... in the most unlikely places!

All the miserable hilly confused thoughts and feelings stand aside for that fountain. All the sandstorms cease their howling before its chuckle. All the heat and dirt--how glad one is for them!--are only there to make the feeling of washing and drinking that much better. As for the water itself, I cannot describe it. I will only say that once you have tasted that water, there will not be a wine anywhere, no matter how rich or fragrant, that can make you forget it. That water is the richest, coldest, sweetest thing of all.

The world moves for love. I just learned it again today.